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Hi, I’m Dr. Moses and in this short video I talk about the power of the words, “I wish.”
A lot of times we are wishing for all kinds of things or situations.
- I wish I had more money
- I wish I had a better job
- I wish my wife would do something or other for me more often.
- I wish that I lived in another state.
- I wish my boss would stop being such an _______
- I wish I didn’t have to work
- I wish I could win the lottery
- I wish I could eat as much as I want and not gain weight
Finding The Deeper Meaning of Your Desires, Wants or Needs
When you say I wish, be careful with your words and recognize what’s happening inside of you. There are two kinds of wishes. There are “egoic desires” and Spiritual Desires, or the Heart’s Desire.
Egoic Desires
The ego is that sense of seperation. In the Christian tradition, it’s called “the flesh,” although our flesh is not really the ego, but it’s a good start. Our egoic expressions are our negative reactive emotions, our selfishness, self-centeredness, isolation, and refusal to be in relationship with others. Our refusal to Love.
From that place of selfishness, we want to be constantly pleasurized. This is the ego acting out. These desires are not from the heart; they are simply negative and reactive.
The ego is always “seeking” for happiness. If you are thinking, “If only I had x, then I would be happy!” it’s most likely an egoic desire.
If you have an egoic desire, don’t just ignore it. You can:
- journal about it
- talk about it to a friend, without pretending that it’s a true heart desire
- breathe into it
- let it go gently
- find something else to do! Work, meditate, do your sacred art.
We Want To Cultivate Our Spiritual Desires
There’s another kind of desire that comes from deep inside of the heart and the soul. You can know the difference because these spiritual desires are usually harder to do, they take work, they take sacrifice and are intended on creating, building and helping others.
- I wish there was peace in the world.
- I wish I could be more creative
- I wish I could be more expressive
- I wish I can bless others more often
- I wish I could experience “God” more deeply in my body.
These are the types of wishes we do want to understand and cultivate with gentleness and love.
How To Cultivate Your Spiritual Desires
You can cultivate your deep-heart desires via:
- journaling
- making goals
- talking to a friend about them
- taking action: What’s the next step?
- practicing “sacred art.”
- meditation
So next time you say I wish, ask yourself if it’s an egoic wish or if it’s a spiritual wish or a spiritual desire. If it is egoic, breathe and let it go. If it’s a spiritual desire then cultivate it, journal about it and meditate on it- and make it real for you.
Thank you for being here.
Love,
Dr. Moses.